Developing Inner Strength
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From next week, I’m going to review some of my favourite episodes of Behind The Grind and share my thoughts from then vs today.
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Let’s get into it
I was on the train to work on Friday, and as I was trying to wake myself up with music in my ears a random thought occurred to me: we don’t talk about inner strength.
This thought had come to me earlier last week too. At first, I didn’t think much of it. Everyone does the things they don’t want to, right? Doesn’t that classify as having inner strength i.e doing the hard thing even when you didn’t want to? Or pushing against a force to get what you want. Surely, everyone fights some form of resistance.
But being the workaholic I am, realised that certain individuals use inner strength the same way they use their muscles. For unforgiving and purposely positioned difficult situations. And these situations could have been avoided very easily but due to some messed up neural networking, decided to take the harder path. In short, these individuals get their dopamine from pain rather than pleasure. And without that pain, they feel no sense of fulfillment and because that pain Is associated with a greater perceived “good”.
The individuals I’m talking about btw are entrepreneurs.
Entrepreneurs have immense levels of inner strength and also beautiful disbelief. Imagine knowing the odds of success are 1% and still deciding to risk everything you’ve got. Thats wild but also bold. The only thing keeping you going is basically you and all that you have to offer at all costs.
Personally, I know I’ve developed inner strength the same way I’ve developed physical strength, by putting reps in and absorbing that short term pain.
I feel this idea of building strength within has been with me for a while and has developed as a result of key actions taken over the past many years. And in true Unfiltered fashion, here are ways in which I’ve developed inner strength:
Acceptance rather than denial. I’ve made it very clear to myself of where I am and why I am where I am. When I started Backspace, many around me suggested against it because of what my personal circumstances were at the time. In my mind, it was because of those circumstances why I felt it was the perfect time to start a business. I was not unaware nor in denial of my situation and used that as fuel to change my circumstances.
Working out. I don’t think I’ve ever had a workout where I’ve successfully released my anger. But I’ve had several workouts where I keep telling myself about myself. What I mean is I will tell myself how strong I was at one time, and that my current self should be able to kick my old self’s ass.
Little to no complaining. Complaining about things is fine, but complaining about a situation is not. Especially if its business. You are solely responsible for anything and everything happening in and with the business, therefore you are not in a position to complain. I know, it might seem harsh but thats just how I am. I, too, am human, so when I complain, it's more to vent, to destress. I do this very mindfully to release cortisol, not to deny or to blame.
Clear expectations of oneself. I’ve been on a journey of self-improvement since I was 19 and I think I will be till I die because I want to get better and better each day, not at one particular thing, but as a whole. I also want to be in a position to create a massive impact one which can only come after achieving certain financial and social milestones. I’ve got a clear vision of where I want to be and fully understand getting there is extremely ambitious and therefore, will require me to push myself to extremes. Therefore, my actions today are followed by a mental reminder to myself that I need to do this, for what I want in the future.
Discipline and choice. I feel the world we now live in allows us too many choices in life. We can choose between multiple options of cereal, multiple options of shows, and multiple options of friends too. But when you have conviction or desire for a particular outcome, you really don’t have a choice but to put in the work to get there. This is my view on discipline: not allowing yourself the choice to move away from the goal. And also easily one of the drivers of my inner strength.
Friends. I’ve been very fortunate to be around friends who were not as serious or boring as myself, but were equally focused and determined. Knowing that there is a group of people around you pushing themselves for their own desires is helpful. On days I would feel like I’m slacking, I would look at them and use their energy as a source of inspiration to keep going. On some days, their staying determined would give me FOMO so that helps too.
So to sum it up
Inner Strength Comes from Acceptance, Not Denial. Acknowledge where you are and why. Instead of resisting tough circumstances, use them as fuel to push forward and create change.
Discipline is a Choice, Not a Restriction. True discipline means removing unnecessary choices that distract from your goal. If you’re serious about an outcome, there’s no option but to put in the work.
Pain as a Growth Mechanism. Just like physical strength, inner strength is built through repeated effort and endurance. Some entrepreneurs even thrive on difficulty, finding fulfillment in overcoming pain rather than seeking pleasure.
No Room for Complaints, Only Accountability. In business and life, taking full responsibility eliminates the need for complaints. Venting may relieve stress, but shifting blame is counterproductive.
Surround Yourself with Driven People. The right friends and environment can push you forward. Being around ambitious, focused individuals creates momentum and can even trigger productive FOMO.
Have a Clear, Long-Term Vision. Knowing where you want to go—and the level of effort required to get there—keeps you motivated. Every action today should align with a bigger future goal.
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